Anxiety and sex

It's important to appreciate that anxiety can easily affect your sex life. But if you can get rid of the anxiety, everything will improve.

What sort of anxieties are we talking about?
Both sexes
·    Will he or she think that I'm no good in bed?
·    Will this lead to pregnancy?
·    Could I catch something?
·    Should I be doing this at all?
Females only
·    Will he think my breasts are too flat, fat or floppy?
·    Will he think my genitals are ugly?
·    Will he dislike the smell of them?
·    Will sex with him hurt me?
·    What if I can't come?
·    Will I leak fluid when I come?
Males only
·    Will I be able to get an erection?
·    Will I be unable to get a condom on?
·    Will I come far too soon?
·    Will she think that my penis isn't big enough?
·    Will she laugh at me?

In fact, a few of these worries are perfectly reasonable. For instance, if you're a teenager who is just about to have unprotected sex, It's perfectly normal to be anxious about the (considerable) risk that you're about to take.
But a lot of the sexual anxieties listed above are really quite irrational. And, most importantly, they tend to make the situation worse.

How anxiety makes the situation worse?
The reason is quite simple.
When a person is worrying, this automatically makes his or her body release 'anxiety chemicals' into the bloodstream.
These include adrenaline that mainly comes from the adrenal glands, located just above your kidneys.
Most people have heard of adrenaline and tend to think that it must be 'a good thing' because they're vaguely aware that it makes you run faster or jump further – as in the well-known sporting expression 'the adrenaline really kicked in'.
But where sex is concerned, these anxiety chemicals are not a good thing for you. They actually have a really bad effect on sexual relations.

For instance, in men they can:
·    make him lose his erection
·    make it difficult for him to stay stiff enough to get a condom on
·    make him come far too soon.

And in women, the effect of anxiety chemicals can:
·    make the vagina tighten up
·    make it difficult to relax and enjoy yourself
·    make it hard to climax.

Treatment
You may think that the answer to this anxiety is to take tranquillizers. But this is completely wrong.
In fact, tranquilizers rarely help much and are liable to make you 'hooked'.
But fortunately, psychological methods of reducing anxiety – such as consulting, psychotherapy and specific de-stressing techniques – will reduce your anxiety and make your sex life much more enjoyable.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex-and-relationships/anxiety-and-sex.htm